(This article was originally presented at the Foucault Circle in April of 2018 in Cleveland, Ohio at John Carroll University.)
In a chapter from History of Sexuality Foucault asks: “What if sex in our society, on a scale of several centuries, was something that was placed within an unrelenting system of confession?” October 11th has been celebrated as National Coming Out Day in the United States for nearly thirty years beginning in 1988. Every year, hundreds, perhaps thousands, of people across the country ‘come out’ or as or confess to being gay, transgender, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, queer, etc. And while some may find it liberating to be able to identify themselves by their sexual attractions, there some who believe that there are problematic elements about this day and about the narrative of ‘coming out’ as a concept which I am inclined to agree with. I believe that ‘coming out’ reinforces the idea that heterosexual and cisgender people are the norm, that ‘coming out’ often puts queer people in danger, and that forming an identity around sexuality is unstable and limiting as well as violating because our sexual experiences are laid out in the open for everyone to know; I will be mainly be using Michel Foucault’s “The Repressive Hypothesis” chapter from The History of Sexuality and James Baldwin’s essay “Here Be Dragons” to support these arguments. I would like to note that throughout this essay, I will be using the word ‘queer’ as a general term to describe non-heterosexual cisgender people.
There is a fear in our community that those who resist labels and exist without them will not “know our history,” but the fact that labels and identity categories have changed over time and the fact that we still managed to preserve the history of these now outdated taxonomies thanks to queer historians, philosophers, sociologists, and those in Women, Gender, and Sexuality Studies, this fear is unfounded and seems to come from people who have, in fact, forgotten parts of history and are also out of touch with the experiences of queer people in the academy currently. The word ‘homosexual’ does not come into use until the late 19th century[1]. Prior to this, those who experienced same-sex attraction (mainly males) were known as sodomites, and before that there were no names for such people, anyone could engage in sodomy without being labeled by this act. In the words of Foucault, “Homosexuality appeared as one of the forms of sexuality when it was transposed from the practice of sodomy…the sodomite had been a temporary aberration; the homosexual was now a species,” (322-3). Whereas sodomy was simply an act, ‘homosexual’ was an identity, an identity that was shaped around sexual acts, but now those acts had become an integral part of the person performing them; only those people performed sodomy, the people over there. This shift in paradigms (or epistemes in Foucault’s language) occurred in the Victorian Era when psychoanalysis began to rise in popularity (thanks to Sigmund Freud) which lead to homosexuality not only being and identity, but a pathology. Homosexuality in this episteme became a disease, a mental illness, that either had to be fixed or sequestered from ‘normal’[2] population in asylums and hospitals. Later in the Victorian Era, the discourse shifts again from labeling homosexuality an illness to making it a crime (Foucault 312). The point of explaining all of this is to say that homosexuality as an identity is unstable; it has changed over time and will likely continue to change. In Foucault’s words: “we are dealing less with a discourse on sex than with a multiplicity of discourses produced by a whole series of mechanisms operating in different institutions,” (314), which is to say that even in the Victorian Era alone there was not only one single discourse, one single narrative, on what homosexuality was.
Our current episteme has constructed two major models for looking at homosexuality: the essentialist model and the constructionist model. And here I am only giving a rough schematic for these models and reserve the issue for how they have been construct for now as I am more concerned with how these models are functioning currently. The essentialist model (which has been taken up more by popular culture), or what I refer to as the “Born This Way” model, insists that there is something within a person from before birth that destines them to be homosexual. This model is what had sparked the search for “the gay gene,” a biological aberration that would mark gay people as fundamentally different than straight people and that, if found, could altered; it is another way of pathologizing homosexuality in way that, if proven true, could root out gay people in prenatal screening and parents could then choose whether or not to have a gay child. The constructionist model (more favored in the academy) insists that homosexuality as an identity is shaped by the discourse surrounding it, which I am more inclined to agree with though there are some problematic elements to this as well, namely that the case for homosexuality being a lifestyle or a choice that could be changed through abusive practices such as conversion therapy is stronger here; but if the goal is to normalize homosexuality and other queer identities than this issue too will be solved in this model. The constructionist model is important (in my opinion) because it does allow for fluidity in sexuality. If there were some biological factor that decided whether or not someone was gay, then that person would only ever be able to identify as such, but when taking into account real human experiences of sexuality, this is often not the case. How people identify can change multiple times within their lifetime and while it could be argued that someone is merely ‘going through a phase’ before they ‘figure out who they really are’ this argument would invalidate that person’s experiences leading up to their current term for identification. For example, if a person identifies as asexual for much of their life, has told people that this what they are, perhaps has even written, spoken, and theorized about their life as an asexual person, then comes to find that are feeling a sexual attraction to someone, was that person ever asexual? Were they perhaps demisexual the whole time? Does that then invalidate all of their prior experiences as an asexual? At the very least, they would lose their authority in discussions of asexuality.
James Baldwin also has a critique of queer labeling. He writes in “Here Be Dragons” that “once you have discerned the meaning of a label, it may seem to define you for others, but it does not have the power to define you to yourself,” (68). Essentially, Baldwin believes that labels mostly serve to allow straight people to place queer people in categories that are intelligible to the mainstream heteronormative culture though it may not comprehensively capture the nuances and complexities of an individual’s sexual and romantic tendencies or gender performance. Baldwin also alludes to the trans-historical instability of queer identities when he says, “The condition that is now called gay was then called queer,” (68). This means that the labels that Baldwin used to identify himself likely changed during his lifetime. The implications of this fact are: one – that there may not yet be labels to describe everyone’s sexual desires, and two – perhaps there was once a label that once existed that described someone’s experiences, but longer does. For example, no one is identifying as an invert or sodomite these days, and while ‘queer’ was once a slur (and still is in some contexts), it has largely been reclaimed as an umbrella term for people who are not straight.
Who ‘comes out of the closet’? Anybody who is not heterosexual or cisgender, essentially (though according to Human Rights Campaign’s official website, people can ‘come out’ as an ally[3]), but why is it that straight people do not ‘come out’ as straight? It is because the sociopolitical culture in the United States (and most everywhere else) is largely hetero- and cisnormative, meaning that these are considered the default gender and sexual expressions and that anything else is ‘Other.’ The phrase “to come out,” as explained by George Chauncey in his book Gay New York, also originated as the moment when gay men would make their debut in society similarly to the way Southern women have “coming out” parties when they make their debut in society as a woman. This version of “coming out” has an entirely different and markedly more positive connotation compared to the current “coming out the closet” that implies that not “coming out” is to be in hiding from oneself and from society. Identifying as gay is a way a displaying one’s sexual proclivities in a way that straight people do not have to. Kristen Stewart of Twilight said of her coming out experience: “In that moment, to make it normal and cool and completely unashamed? It felt really cool.[4]” The fact that her coming out was in a way making her sexuality ‘normal’ is somewhat of a paradox. If her sexuality is ‘normal’ than why ‘come out’ at all? What purpose does it serve to ‘come out’ in that case? The United States is highly heteronormative; thus, people are assumed to be straight by default – straight is the norm. To come out something else is to disrupt the norm, to mark yourself as abnormal, it does not normalize other sexualities. While there are those who are not queer that have attempted to appropriate the language of coming out (atheists, apparently ‘come out’ as well[5], and those who are secretly practicing witchcraft are said to be ‘in the broom closet’[6]) the idea of setting themselves apart from the norm is a similar to the way queer people ‘come out,’ thought it may seem a bit silly and neither atheists nor wiccans experience systemic discrimination the way that queer people do.
Those in the LGBTQA, ETC. spectrum of gender and sexuality are disproportionately targets of violence and discrimination in most (westernized) regions of the world. This has its roots in imperialism and the spread of Abrahamic religions (mainly Christianity) into nations that had otherwise accepted genders outside of the gender binary, such two-spirit Native Americans and the Indian Hijras, and did not classify those who performed homosexual acts as a separate class of persons. The destruction of these practices by Christian colonizers has had long lasting effects on how queer people are treated all over the world. Sudan, for instance, has banned all homosexual activity and will sentence men to death on their third “offence” and women on their fourth[7]. But ‘coming out’ is considered a right of passage for queer people of all ages in the United States and those who do are often called brave for doing so. To call these people brave for ‘coming out’ implies that there is an inherent risk in assigning oneself a label under the queer umbrella and sharing it with the world, but despite this, there is immense pressure to ‘come out’ in ‘liberal’ spaces in the United States, such as in popular culture and in the academy (mainly in the humanities). In popular culture, there are many celebrities with famous ‘coming out stories’ like Ellen DeGeneres, Ellen Page, Frank Ocean, and Neil Patrick Harris; and these celebrities often encourage others to do the same, but they do not seem to realize that their money and status provides them with some protection from discrimination and physical harm that laygays[8] do not usually have. Often, in more conservative and rural areas, coming out is not an option. According to a 2014 Rolling Stone article, Mississippi:
“orchestrated a fake decoy prom to keep a lesbian couple from attending and another banned a female student’s yearbook photo when she was pictured wearing a tuxedo. In April, Mississippi passed a “religious freedom” law that would allow businesses to deny service to LGBT couples.”
And in Texas, then Governor Rick Perry: “compared homosexuality to alcoholism: ‘I may have the genetic coding that I’m inclined to be an alcoholic, but I have the desire not to do that, and I look at the homosexual issue the same way.’ And as for Michigan “the state has a disproportionately high hate crime rate, with one survey ranking Michigan as high as second in the nation. These incidents largely target transgender women of color.”[9] To ‘come out’ in these areas is put oneself in danger, potentially risking one’s life.
But the narrative in Hollywood is that coming out is liberating and truthful and validates one’s experiences as a queer person. From actor Matt Bomer on his ‘coming out’ experience “I thought, ‘If this person can live their truth, what am I doing?’” To actor Elliot Page: “I am tired of hiding and I am tired of lying by omission. I suffered for years because I was scared to be out. My spirit suffered, my mental health suffered and my relationships suffered. And I’m standing here today, with all of you, on the other side of all that pain.” [10]
The problem with stories like these is that they assume that the suffering ends when one puts their sexuality on display for the world and by deciding to keep their sexuality to themselves, they are somehow lying to everyone. This narrative implies that one owes it to the outside world and to themselves to ‘come out,’ and that, for some reason, other people (including total strangers) have a right to know who everyone else is or is not attracted to and/or what their genitals may look like, in the case of trans and intersex people.
Baldwin speaks of a very different experience when he writes, “The fear of the world was bearable until it entered the bedroom” (685). ‘Coming out’ has become a way of inviting the world into one’s bedroom, so to speak. Often, the abjection that most homophobic people have to gay people is how they imagine gay people have sex. In this way, gay men are seen as the embodiment of anal sex, while lesbians seem to confuse people – the logistics of sex between two women is a mystery to Straight™[11]people. When one ‘comes out’ as gay, they are essentially sharing their sexual and romantic desires to other people, but no one seems to wonder why this information is the concern of anyone but themselves and their potential partner. In other words, when labeling themselves as, for example, bisexual, this is indication that they have a sexual interest in two or more genders; they lose the privacy of the sexual life that people who do not label themselves are afforded. By forming an identity around sexuality, one becomes something of a lowkey exhibitionist.
Some theorists such as Mari Ruti have asked why queer people would want to be normal because the ‘normal’ has historically been oppressive to us. The answer to this is a simple one: we want people to stop killing us. As I have mentioned before, queer people are disproportionately vulnerable to the systematic and random violence that Iris Marion Young in “The Five Faces of Oppression” in a way that those who are ‘normal’ i.e. straight, are not. According to an article in “USA Today” 2016 was one of the deadliest years for LGBTQ people in the United States. The study they cite by the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs (NCAVP) says that hate killing had risen 17% and had over 1,000 cases of hate-related violence and this does not include the 49 people who were killed in the Pulse nightclub shooting[12]. Apparently, 2017 was even worse. By September of last year, more queer people had already been victims of hate crimes than all of 2016[13]. This type of violence only occurs with people who are marginalized, which means people who are excluded from ‘the norm’. Without forming an identity around our sexuality, we (as queer people) would not stand out as an ‘Other’ and thus would not be targeted for our sexuality. This is not to say that this is our fault. Often we are labelled as ‘Others’ by the mainstream heteronormative culture who try to police our various form of sexual expression through socialization and legislation, but this is exactly why we must resist these labels. We should not let other people both on the right and left define us to suit some political or personal purpose that only puts us in danger. In short, we need to normalize ourselves as a means of protection. This is not saying that we need to ‘go back in the closet’ it is saying that there should be no closet to be in or come out of to begin with.
Ruti also claims that there some queer theorists who are advocating for queer people to be negative and that by doing this they are being subversive to the ‘cult of positivity,’ that America is perpetuating (2). I do not argue that America is obsessed with false happiness and does not cover over negative feeling. I do argue, however, that American queers were never allowed to part of this aspect of American culture and that queer negativity is in no way subversive; it feeds directly into the mainstream narrative that queers can only ever be unhappy. Sara Ahmed explains this well in her book The Promise of Happiness:
“[Spring Fire] will be published, but only on condition that it does not have a happy ending, as such an ending would ‘make homosexuality attractive.’ Queer fiction in this period could not give happiness to its characters as queers; such a gift would be readable as making queers appear ‘good’…Somewhat ironically, then, the unhappy ending becomes a political gift: it provides a means through which queer fiction could be published,” (88).
Painting queer people as unhappy has always been a means of othering them. It is feeding in to the Straight™ culture’s idea that not only are queers unhappy, they are unhappy because they are queers and being queer is being unhappy because it is ‘nonnormative’. Perpetuating this idea of the queer negativity is only further alienating us into a space of higher vulnerability; when we marginalize ourselves, we are only making it easier to be oppressed and harmed. If we stop labelling ourselves as an ‘other’, if we stop ‘coming out’ we can have to chance to be happy or unhappy without it being implicitly tied to our identities.
In conclusion, I am highly skeptical of the ‘coming out’ narrative that has been perpetuated in the liberal areas of American culture because these labels historically and culturally unstable (as Foucault and Baldwin would agree), that it makes queer people more vulnerable to violence and oppression, it reinforces the idea that heterosexuals and cisgenders are ‘the norm’ and that every sexual and gender experience and expression outside of these are ‘Other’, and by labeling ourselves by our sexual desires we are inviting the world into our bedroom in a way that straight people do not. The ‘coming out’ narrative as part of a person’s larger experiences as queer ultimately does more harm that good and coerces people to ‘come out’ even when it may not be safe or necessary to do so and makes queer people feel like they are lying or being untrue to themselves in some way by not telling everyone they know who they want (or do not want) to have sex with.
Works Cited:
- Ahmed, Sara. The Promise of Happiness. Duke University Press, 2010.
- Baldwin, James. The Price of the ticket: collected nonfiction 1948-1985. St. Martins-Marek, 1985.
- Chauncey, George, et al. Gay New York: Gender, Urban Culture, and the Making of the Gay Male World, 1890-1940. BasicBooks, 1994.
- Foucault, Michel, and Paul Rabinow. The Foucault Reader. Pantheon Books, 1984.
- Ruti, Mari. The Ethics of Opting Out. Columbia University Press, 2017.
[1] Pickett, Brent. “Homosexuality.” Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy, Stanford University, 6 Aug. 2002, plato.stanford.edu/entries/homosexuality/.
[2] I use the word ‘normal’ here rather than heterosexual because heterosexual does not become an identity until the very end of the 19th century in 1892 and was not widely used until the 1960s.
“Heterosexual.” Online Etymology Dictionary, http://www.etymonline.com/word/heterosexual.
[3] “National Coming Out Day.” Human Rights Campaign, HRC, http://www.hrc.org/resources/national-coming-out-day.
[4] Sheppard, Ciara. “14 Awesome, Funny & Inspiring Celebrity Coming out Stories.” Glamour, Glamour UK, 7 July 2017, http://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/gallery/celebrity-coming-out-stories.
[5] Berry, Robby. “Why Come Out As An Atheist?” Infidels.org, The Secular Web, infidels.org/library/modern/robby_berry/ycomeout.html.
[6] Psyche. “Stepping out of the Broom Closet: Coming out as Wiccan or Pagan.” Spiral Nature Magazine, 12 July 2015, http://www.spiralnature.com/spirituality/steppingout/.
[7] Carrol, Aengus. “STATE-SPONSORED HOMOPHOBIA: A WORLD SURVEY OF SEXUAL ORIENTATION LAWS: CRIMINALISATION, PROTECTION AND RECOGNITION.” Ilga.org, Oct. 2016, ilga.org/downloads/02_ILGA_State_Sponsored_Homophobia_2016_ENG_WEB_150516.pdf.
[8] That is, those of us who middle class and lower, who nobody would defend or miss very much if something were to happen to us.
[9] Lang, Nico. “The 5 Worst States for LGBT People.” Rolling Stone, Rolling Stone, 24 Nov. 2014, http://www.rollingstone.com/politics/news/the-5-worst-states-for-lgbt-people-20141124.
[10] Sheppard, Ciara. “14 Awesome, Funny & Inspiring Celebrity Coming out Stories.” Glamour, Glamour UK, 7 July 2017, http://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/gallery/celebrity-coming-out-stories.
[11] Here, I am referring to a specific subset of straight people: a very stereotypical straight person who is ignorant of most aspects of Queer Culture and Theory who, if they ask questions at all, often ask for intimate details on the sexual lives of queer folks; these same straight people also have a habit of asking trans and intersex people about their genitalia.
[12] Dastagir, Alia E. “2016 Was the Deadliest Year on Record for the LGBTQ Community.” USA Today, Gannett Satellite Information Network, 12 June 2017, http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2017/06/12/2016-deadliest-year-lgbtq-pulse/373840001/.
[13] Perraudeau, Mélissa. “More LGBT Folks Have Been Killed In 2017 Than In All Of Last Year.” Konbini United States, 14 Aug. 2017, http://www.konbini.com/us/lifestyle/lgbt-murders-increase-2017-compared-2016/.